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Books Recommended
by Changes Parents

There are many parenting books out there. These books have made a difference for Changes parents.

Unhooked – How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover

by Jason Coombs. 2019. FaithHappenings Publishing. A helpful and hopeful guide to understanding the behavior patterns of substance abuse and recovery, written by a former addict that now leads his own treatment center. This is the book the author’s mother wished had been available earlier.

Parenting Teens with Love and Logic

by Jim Fay and Foster Cline. Excellent source for teaching parents how to prepare adolescents for responsible adulthood in the face of drugs, peer pressure, violence, law-breaking, etc.

Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You

by Susan Forward, Ph.D. with Donna Frazier. Harper Paperbacks. 250p. Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets.

Recovering My Kid: Parenting Young Adults in Treatment and Beyond

by Joseph Lee, MD. 2012. Hazelden Foundation publishing division.
National expert Dr. Joseph Lee explains the nature of youth addiction and treatment, and how families can create a safe and supportive environment for their loved ones during treatment and throughout recovery.

The 7 Worst Things Good Parents Do

by John C. Friel Ph.D. and Linda D. Friel, M.A. 1999. Health Communications Inc. Readable and infinitely practical book that explores some of the worst mistakes we can make as parents and guides us through examples and ideas on how change can be effected. Working from the idea that even small changes can have big results, the authors give parents concrete steps they can take to end these behaviors and improve the quality of their parenting.

Taking Charge: Caring Discipline That Works At Home and At School

by JoAnne Nordling. Sibyl Publications. 303p. A well-designed guide to setting healthy limits and putting yourself back in charge without undermining the child’s sense of security and self-worth.

The Co-Dependent Parent: Free Yourself by Freeing Your Child

by Barbara Cottman Becnel. 1991. Harper, San Francisco. 260p. Excellent source for co-dependency issues in parenting. Examines the emotional side of “letting go.”

Co-Dependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melody Beattle, 1987.  Hazelden Foundation Publishing Division. Recovery has begun for millions of individuals with this straightforward guide.  Through personal examples and exercises, readers are shown how controlling others forces them to lose sight of their own needs and happiness.

An Owner’s Guide to Parenting Teenagers: A Step-By-Step, Solution-Focused Approach to Raising Adolescents Without Losing Your Mind

by Pat James Baxter and Cynthia Dawson Naff. 1997. Real Life Press. 212p. Lots of common sense, natural consequences for acting-out behaviors, probably more applicable for younger adolescents. Baxter and Naff advocate change by the parent as the first step to “getting unstuck.”

Grown-up Children Who Won’t Grow Up

by Larry V. Stockman and Cynthia S. Graves. 1994. Prima Publishing, Rocklin, CA. 237p. Excellent source for co-dependent parents with “older adolescents.”

Books Recommended For Parents of Pre-teens

Getting to Calm: Cool-headed strategies for parenting tweens and teens

by Laura S. Kastner, Ph.D. and Jennifer Wyatt, Ph.D. ParentMap. 304p. Parenting a teenager is tougher than ever, but new brain research offers new insight into the best way to connect with teens. With humor, wisdom and a deep understanding of the teenaged brain, noted teen expert Dr. Laura Kastner shows parents how to stay calm and cool-headed while dealing with hot-button issues everything from rude attitude and lying to sex and substance use — with clear, easy-to-follow suggestions for setting limits while maintaining a close and loving relationship.

Related Services and Resources

Parents of Adolocents and Teens – PEPS

This flexibly-priced program is optimized for parents and caregivers of children  aged 10-19 that reside in PEPS’ western WA service region. Meetings take place once per week for 9 weeks on Zoom and are led by a Group Leader trained in adolescent development and group facilitation. Topics covered range from adolescent mental health to gender identity development to online safety. 

988 Suicide and Crisis Hotline

Dial 988 from any phone in the US to connect to local mental health resources in your state. Trained mental health counselors will provide assistance  

Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

Find treatment resources here. Reduce the impact of substance abuse and mental illness on America’s communities.

NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)

Provides education, support, resources and referral, advocacy and housing services. Strives to address the unmet needs of individuals with serious and persistent mental illness and their families. Enter your state in the selector at the bottom of the linked page to find NAMI resources in your state.

DadsM.O.V.E (Mentoring Others through Voices of Experience)

The mission of DadsM.O.V.E. is to strengthen the father’s role in raising children with behavioral health needs through education, peer support and advocacy.  DadsMOVE seeks to provide every parent/caregiver (especially dads) with the tools, support, and training needed to be fully engaged in the recovery of their children. These folks are also highly experienced in advocating for special needs children.  Paid and free coursework and meetings are available. 

Washington Poison Center (WAPC)

Available 24/7 to answer any question concerning drugs, drug usage, as well as provide emergency treatment advice concerning overdose. WAPC is not a reporting agency: all calls are confidential, 1-800-222-1222. This is a great resource for parents and teens.

Northeast Seattle Coalition to Prevent Underage Drinking

Prevent underage drinking, substance abuse, and associated problems through education, advocacy, and networking with students, families, and the community.

ARY (At Risk Youth) and
CHINS (Child In Need of Services)

The information below is specific to King County, WA, and is meant to be representative of what you may find in other jurisdictions.

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